The process of orgasm for a man is so intense and easy to achieve that
it is his preferred method for stress relief. As general stress increases in a man’s
life, his awareness of the tension in his body is heightened.
The release of semen at ejaculation not only relieves the tension in his
body, it also transports him mentally and emotionally into the box of sexual
expression. When he enters that box, all the cares of life are put on hold. The fact that good sex is usually followed by sleep only adds to the impact that sexual activity has in relieving stress in his life.
I believe that most men would like to have more control over this part
of his sex drive. It just will not
let up even though he would love to find the turn off switch.
The tension builds involuntarily and consumes more of his life than he is
comfortable with. He also has no idea how to explain this to his wife.
He doesn’t want her to think he lacks self control, or worse, that he has
a perverted outlook on sex. He also doesn’t want to put undue pressure on her, but he can’t stop the process going on inside himself. Every
man’s longs for his wife to accept the intensity of this compartment because he
is bound to live with it. When she
is sensitive and compassionate about the constant intensity of his sex drive, he
is amazed and grows in his love for her.
When she is critical of it or insensitive, he turns inward and silently
fights the struggle alone.
So my friends, how about you. Have you accepted and embraced the intensity of your husband's sex drive? At least 80% of men have a stronger sex drive than their wives and the best gift you can give him as a wife is to seek to understand and embrace the intensity of his drive. I know that when I did, it changed my marriage for the better. A sure way to know if you are not certain is to ask your husband if he feels like you understand that part of him. You might just be surprised by his answer. That is what I would classify as a courageous conversation. Courageous conversations are what great marriages are made of!!!!