I want to share again in this blog post more content from the book Red Hot Monogamy by Bill and Pam Ferrell.
The Benefits of Scheduling Sex:
Eliminates “The Ask”- reassures the high sex drive partner that it will happen and when it
Increases Desire- engages the brain to get in the mood and reminds spouses they are working
together toward the goal of intimacy by valuing their appointed rendezvous, and
doing whatever it takes to make happen.
Increases Anticipation – by keeping lovemaking on the front burner it builds anticipation and sets a
Allows for Prime Time Planning-you get to decide the time of day and what day of the week that
work best for your schedule and preferences.
Helps Couples Prepare Physically-a shower, bath or a nap all help to get you feeling
ready. (or a cup of coffee!!)
Builds Trust in the Marriage-when we honor our word it builds trust and deepens
When Ty and I implemented this one practice in our marriage it made a huge difference for us. Once, when I was about to go out to a speaking engagement and my topic was sex, I asked him what was a difference maker for him in turning the physical intimacy area of our marriage around. He said without a moments hesitation, " Knowing when we will have sex!!"
We were out to breakfast with some dear friends recently and he mentioned his birthday was coming up that next week. We asked what they were planning for his birthday and he smiled and said, "Well for sure it is a GSD!!" "GSD we asked??" "GUARENTEED SEX DAY!"
Before you decide it is unromantic and non-spontaneous, try it. You might just find that GSD's will impact your marriage more than you can imagine!!!