So I’ve been a dad for…..Emily is my oldest of four children…26 years. I can
still remember the first time I held her in my arms at Redlands Hospital in
California. Now she’s doing the same for her son Theo and daughter Violet. How
did that happen so fast?
Terri and I became “empty nesters” for the second time last Thursday. “18113 Nina
Street” is sure quiet these days. Man, I loved (almost) every minute of my kids
childhood. Hopefully they concure (no pressure kids). I reflect all the time
about my role as a dad, past and present. Looking back there’s probably a
lot I could’ve done better. But for the most part, (almost) no regrets.
I work with youth professionally. God has given me a “dad’s heart” for
youth…especially those who feel a bit like an orphan in their hearts. As I’ve
invested in my own children’s lives and other parents’ kids, here’s what I
believe are some of the most important thing a dad can give his children:
1. A healthy marriage to their mom-
2. An emotional and spiritually healthy heart
3. Quality AND Quanity time
4. Intentionally know their “language of love”
5. A strong “work ethic”
6. Many, many words of “blessing” and “encouragement”
7. “Loving boundaries”
That’s it for now! It’s such a huge challenge and blessing to be a dad. I
pray that all the dads out there know they’re not alone. Our kids deserve a
fully-engaged dad. May the Lord help us…we need Him desperately!