This important book lays out a way to help children experience, at the deepest level of their hearts, the certainty that they are highly valued and forever treasured by someone incredibly significant in their life stories. It lays out 5 specific actions parents can take to ensure their children receive "The Blessing".
Todays culture is so toxic and our children are being affected daily. In addition, parents are busier than ever and if you are not intentional, your kids can get lost in the shuffle. It is hard growing up in our instant gratification, MTV society with distorted messages of what is acceptable. Add to that the fact that half of marriages are ending in divorce and we have a recipe for instability and confusion. Although we as parents cannot control may of the outside influences our children encounter, we can control the climate of our homes and the messages our children receive from us. That is why for us, the 5 elements of The Blessing became an important part of our parenting.
The 5 elements of The Blessings are as follows:
1. Meaningful and appropriate touch
2. A spoken message
3. Attaching high value to the one being blessed
4. Picturing a special future for him or her
5. Active commitment to fulfill the blessing
Briefly stated, meaningful touch is the act of physically communicating warmth, acceptance and affirmation. A spoken message is verbalizing love and acceptance and not assuming our children know how we feel about them. Attaching high value sends the message that our children are seen as valuable and accepted. Picturing a special future involves helping our children know that God has awesome plans for their life and that He has something wonderful for them to do in the future. Finally, an active commitment communicates a willingness to do everything possible to help the one being blessed be successful. When we provide these five key elements, personal acceptance is communicated and our children are set up to thrive.
OK, there you have it, my overview of The Blessings. I hope you will take the time to read this book and work to implement these life changing principles in your parenting and other relationships. And by the way, just as I stated with my review of Romancing Your Child's Heart, you do not have to be a parent to use these tools. Anyone God has put in your life can benefit from you "blessing" them with these powerful principles. Let me know if you are able to read the book and how it impacts you. Oh how much better our world will be if the generation coming up behind us knows who they are and that we believe they have what it takes to make a positive and powerful impact on their worlds.